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Intimate Issues February 16, 2009

***********Warning:This blog post contains material on appropriate but adult topics so if you have a child that can read sitting in your lap, I advice you to tell them to go and play elsewhere:)***********

Over the past couple of months I have read and reviewed quite a few books on my blog, but this is the first book that I have actually already read before.

About 6 years ago some of my girlfriends and I started a book club.  We met once a month and would pick a book to read.  We would go out for dessert and discuss the book and have a girl’s night out.  Sometimes we read novels, sometimes self-help books.  It was so much fun.  Well one of those books was Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus.

This book had a profound impact on all of us.  It was challenging, humorous, insightful and practical.  You can imagine that we had GREAT discussions on this one!  Most of us were in the midst of having babies, trying to have babies, recovering from having babies and we all needed/wanted a little advice on how to improve/better enjoy/understand intimacy in our marriages.  Particularly as Christian women we really desired to know what in the world GOD had to say on the whole issue.  Many of us grew up in church and had never been taught much on a Christian, godly perspective of sex.

This is the tenth anniversary of this great book being published.  It’s subtitle is 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex. It is split into three main sections with questions in each section.  Some examples are:

Part 1: Simmering Questions

How can I be godly and sensuous?

How can I relate when he’s a microwave and I’m a crockpot?

What do I do when I don’t want to do it?

How do I make love with children wrapped around my knees?

Part 2: Smoldering Questions

How can I remain faithful in a faithless world?

What do I do when HE has a headache?

My husband is into pornography-what should I do?

Part 3: Sizzling Hot Questions

What’s not okay in bed?

How can I recapture the passion?

The grandaddy of all questions.

It delicately but honestly deals with the issue of past sexual abuse, past sexual sin, the pain and guilt over dealing with abortion, physical problems associated with intimacy and on.  At the end of the book they include something called Gourmet Delight.  It is an activity/challenge they give for you to do with your husband after reading the book.  Most of the women in my book club did the challenge and it was so much fun!  Each chapter has thought provoking questions at the end and in the back of the book there is a 12 week Bible study that you can do privately or as a group as you read the book.  There is also a section where they list resources on the internet, books and organizations to help with some of the topics they address in the book.

I really could go on and on because it was such a terrific read.  I highly recommend getting this book to keep on your bookshelf to have over the years.  I also recommend giving it to young women that you know well as they get engaged.  I wish someone had given it to me before I got married.

I think the highest compliment I could give the book is that I refer back to it often for myself and for close friends as they go through different seasons in their marriage.  I would love to sit down and have coffee with Dillow and Pintus someday.  To thank them for what I have learned but also (giggle) to thank them for the baby boom that took place within our book club 9-12 months after we all read that book.  That Gourmet Delight activity resulted in about 4 little babies being added to the numbers in our group:)

So below I will add some links where you can purchase the book online as well as the author bios and book summary.  I hope you will check it out.  I only received one copy of the book, however since I LOVE this book so much I will be giving it away to one of you lucky friends:)  So leave a comment on this post sometime this week sharing with me what part of the book interested you most…. and I will pick a lucky winner!  And I will go and buy myself a new one because it is just that good and I recently realized that I lent my other copy to somebody and I just can’t remember who?  The book is just that good!


Intimate Issues answers the twenty-one questions about sex most frequently asked by Christian wives, as determined by a nationwide poll of over one thousand women. Written from the perspective of two mature Christian wives and Bible teachers–women who you’ll come to know as teachers and friends–Intimate Issues is biblical and informative: sometimes humorous, other times practical, but always honest. Through its solid teaching warm testimonials, scriptural insights, and experts’ advice, you’ll find resolution for your questions and fears, surprising insights about God’s perspective on sex, and a variety of practical and creative ideas for enhancing your physical relationship with the husband you love.

With warmth and wisdom, authors Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus speak woman to woman: examining the teachings of Scripture, exposing the lies of the world, and offering real hope that every woman’s marriage relationship can become all it was intended to be in God’s design.

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7 Responses to “Intimate Issues”

  1. Hey there!! I love that book. I read it last year and oh my. Life changing and sex changing. I has lost your blog but found it through Vanessa! I am catching up!!

  2. maura Says:

    I have been wanting to get this book foryears but just haven’t done so yet. Maybe I’ll be the lucky winner and will finally get to read it.

  3. Julie Baker Says:

    I remember ya’ll talking about this book…maybe at the lake at the MOPS first retreat? Sounds good…as long as I don’t have to discuss it with a few (who will remain nameless) of my favorite MOPS moms. 🙂 They know just how to embarass the heck out of me!! LOL

  4. Marci Says:

    I have been on a reading kick the last few months. This sounds like it would make an excellent addition to my list.

  5. Robin Says:

    I’ve never heard of this one, but your review made me want to get it! I love book reviews!

  6. Vanessa Says:

    Sounds interesting!

  7. Becky Berkebile Says:

    Loved this book, I bought one at a marraige conference and read it, gave it to my sister. A friend was going through some stuff and I bought her this boook and another for myself, lent it out and bought another. This book should be given to every married woman. It saved my marrraige. I especailly loved the end of the book -Gourmet Delight- most romantic night of my life!

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