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Are you a Hero? May 23, 2009

Filed under: Book reviews — erikaivory @ 2:45 am
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Just finished an AMAZING book!  I love doing blog reviews but this book way exceeded my expectations.  Fred Stoeker and his son Jasen challenge men, young and old, in this book Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires. Fred also wrote Every Man’s Battle and Tactic.  All of these books challenge men to live lives of sexual purity but in Hero the Stoekers work as a team to issue a call for men to rise to God’s challenge to be the leaders and heroes that God created them to be.

Instead of focusing on all the things men should avoid to stays sexually pure they encourage men to leave the women in their lives better for having known them.  They issue the challenge for men to finally stop falling “prey” to their manhood and instead to be in control of their manhood and fulfill the call that the Creator of the universe has on their lives as a man.

This book is simple, inspiring, motivational, down-to-earth and full of Truth.  I am giving it to my youngest brother to read and asked Mark to read it.  I want us to go through it with each of our boys before they start dating.  It is SO GOOD!!!

How exciting would it be if, as parents, we read it and used it as a rite of passage to teach our young men what the REAL TRUTH is about manhood, dating and purity.  And if we made sure the young men that date our daughters also read this and knew the TRUTH that is required of them to truly treat our daughters as a gift and the treasure that they are.  Think about how our pasts would possibly look different if the men in our lives had treated their relationships with women the way Stoeker challenges, to leave us better for having known them.  What heartache and embarrassment and loss we may have avoided.  Or possibly our relationships would have simply been richer and a little less complicated?

I highly, highly recommend this book if you are a parent, have an influence with young people or are a young person.  Can’t say enough good about this book!  I am a bit of a self-help bookaholic, as I have mentioned before, so I have read a LOT of relationship/dating books and this is one of the very best so far!

Below you will find some info on the book itself and the Stoekers.  I so wish I had a book to give away, but I don’t so please, please go check out your local bookstore and pick one up or go to and buy one online!

Book: HERO

Author: Fred Stoeker & Jason Stoeker with contributions by Mike Yorkey


You already know it’s not easy being a single man in this culture today. But it is easy to be overwhelmed, to feel helpless and hopeless about living by God’s high standards for singles. It’s easy to cave in to the pressures of this sex-soaked world and accept defeat—blaming the media, the culture, even girlfriends who don’t know how tough it can be.

But many men have read books like Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics and have committed themselves to stand strong and pure in the power of God, and to go on the offensive against the onslaught of negative stereotypes. Some have suffered. Some have fallen. But many have experienced victory—and you can be among them.

What makes those committed men so desirable to women? Be Her Hero is their motto. From best-selling author Fred Stoeker, along with his son Jasen, come the straightforward insight and real-life examples you’re looking for to help you take personal purity to its logical conclusion. Here’s straight truth with irrefutable evidence of what makes an ultimate hero to women who long for men of faith—men who stand by their convictions and make their world a safer and better place.

Are you ready to accept the challenge?

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Author Bios:

Fred Stoeker is a best-selling author of several books, including Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics, the president of Living True Ministries, and a popular conference speaker who challenges men to become sexually pure, to reconnect in true intimate relationship with their wives, and to train their sons to become godly men. A graduate of Stanford University, Fred lives in Des Moines, Iowa with his wife, Brenda, and their children.

Mike Yorkey, a writer living in Encinitas, California, has collaborated with Fred Stoeker in all his books for the Every Man’s series.

Jasen Stoeker is a popular conference speaker who challenges young men to be heroic in their relationships with women and to be a Christian, rather than just seem like one. Jasen is a graduate of Iowa State University with degrees in Computer Engineering and Computer Science and now lives in Minneapolis, MN, with his wife Rose.


One Response to “Are you a Hero?”

  1. Michelle Says:

    I will have to check this book out. Another good “man” book is Raising a Modern Day Knight.

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